" I HAVE FAILED VS I AM A FAILURE "

I AM A FAILURE.

Every person in his life, must have had this thought atleast once in their life. While, some might be thinking this in their head everyday.

But is it accurate to consider oneself a failure, if he failed in achieving what he aimed for? And, the answer is a big NO.

Let us understand it by an example - 

Let's rewind the clock, to the centuries when kings used to fight among themselves, for the sake of expanding their territory boundaries. The kings used to fight with big army and they used to fight for days.

              Every morning the Battle would begin, and at evening, they stop the fight, take rest the whole night and next morning they start battling again.

              Now, it must had been happening that one king might be Winning the battle on a given day and the rival king on other.

But, the final victory is undecided and completely unpredicted until the war gets over.

            The king who wins the war is the one who get the victory. It really doesn't matter, if for many days, he was losing the battles. But as he has won the war, victory comes to his feet.

So what's the moral of the story?

Actually, the same kind of battles are happening in our lives. Everyday, we wake up to fight a battle, not with others, but with ourselves. Yes it's always you vs you...you always compete with the person who you were yesterday, in the hope of getting better today.

Now, someday we may succeed and someday we may fail in achieving our goals.

But, losing some days only mean that you have failed to win the battle that days. It never mean, in any way, that you are a failure. The question then, that raise its head from the ground is when can someone be a failure???

Well, as victory can be decided only when the war is over. A person can be a failure only when his war i.e. his life is over. That means, until you are alive, you are still in a war, and battles are still needed to be fought. You can not determine someone won or lose the game is really over, right? 

So, how can you consider yourself a failures in your 20s, or 40s or even in your 60s, if you can still play (and win ) the goddamn game of life?

The result of any exam is never declared during the exam, but after the exam is over. Similarly, the result of life's war is only decided after life is over. But, you should not be worrying for that too, because that result also, couldn't affect you, as you wouldn't be alive to see if you are a winner or a failure after you are dead. So, remove this idea of being a failure, you can fail at something (you may lose some battles), but, until you die (until the war ends) you can't really decide for yourself to be a winner or a failure.

Moreover, we even haven't understood the failures correctly.

You see, you aim at something, you try for it, and then you may succeed or fail 

But, it's not really you, who fails. It's your efforts that fails.

When your efforts are not sufficient to achieve what you have aimed then it's your efforts that failed to provide you what you have expected. And surely, you and your efforts are two different things. And failing of efforts doesn't mean you have failed. 

So, stop having self doubt and self pity. Move on, and fight the battles.

And, not to spoil your ending, but, you are going to Win the war.