" I HAVE FAILED VS I AM A FAILURE "

I AM A FAILURE.

Every person in his life, must have had this thought atleast once in their life. While, some might be thinking this in their head everyday.

But is it accurate to consider oneself a failure, if he failed in achieving what he aimed for? And, the answer is a big NO.

Let us understand it by an example - 

Let's rewind the clock, to the centuries when kings used to fight among themselves, for the sake of expanding their territory boundaries. The kings used to fight with big army and they used to fight for days.

              Every morning the Battle would begin, and at evening, they stop the fight, take rest the whole night and next morning they start battling again.

              Now, it must had been happening that one king might be Winning the battle on a given day and the rival king on other.

But, the final victory is undecided and completely unpredicted until the war gets over.

            The king who wins the war is the one who get the victory. It really doesn't matter, if for many days, he was losing the battles. But as he has won the war, victory comes to his feet.

So what's the moral of the story?

Actually, the same kind of battles are happening in our lives. Everyday, we wake up to fight a battle, not with others, but with ourselves. Yes it's always you vs you...you always compete with the person who you were yesterday, in the hope of getting better today.

Now, someday we may succeed and someday we may fail in achieving our goals.

But, losing some days only mean that you have failed to win the battle that days. It never mean, in any way, that you are a failure. The question then, that raise its head from the ground is when can someone be a failure???

Well, as victory can be decided only when the war is over. A person can be a failure only when his war i.e. his life is over. That means, until you are alive, you are still in a war, and battles are still needed to be fought. You can not determine someone won or lose the game is really over, right? 

So, how can you consider yourself a failures in your 20s, or 40s or even in your 60s, if you can still play (and win ) the goddamn game of life?

The result of any exam is never declared during the exam, but after the exam is over. Similarly, the result of life's war is only decided after life is over. But, you should not be worrying for that too, because that result also, couldn't affect you, as you wouldn't be alive to see if you are a winner or a failure after you are dead. So, remove this idea of being a failure, you can fail at something (you may lose some battles), but, until you die (until the war ends) you can't really decide for yourself to be a winner or a failure.

Moreover, we even haven't understood the failures correctly.

You see, you aim at something, you try for it, and then you may succeed or fail 

But, it's not really you, who fails. It's your efforts that fails.

When your efforts are not sufficient to achieve what you have aimed then it's your efforts that failed to provide you what you have expected. And surely, you and your efforts are two different things. And failing of efforts doesn't mean you have failed. 

So, stop having self doubt and self pity. Move on, and fight the battles.

And, not to spoil your ending, but, you are going to Win the war.

"EVEN AFTER PERFECT PLANNING, WHY WE STILL FAIL IN ACHIEVING WHAT WE PLANNED?"

You keep wondering how your day ends without achieving enough. You live unconsciously, for example, you use phone unconsciously for 2-3 hrs; you feel like sleeping in noon or evening and you sleep for 1-2 hrs; you get a message and u get along with it for hours.You know you are wasting time, still you do it all. 

This all is happening because you are not fully conscious of your actions, thoughts and emotions. You should know that you are master of them all and not the other way around. And as you are not conscious, all decisions are being made unconsciously and who made these decisions?. Well, your subconscious mind, who take decisions on basis of your past i.e. your habits and your recent routine. And even though you promise yourself as soon as you get out of your bed, that, today you will do better, but yet at the end of the day, you realise same routine was followed again and you feel demotivated. And, in hope, you then think about starting fresh from tomorrow, with 100 percent efficiency, but.....again, next day same routine is followed unconsciously.

The reason for this is, that as you wake up your mind is fresh and isolated, so you think consciously... but as day begins you caught up in the same routine, because throughout the day you forget about being conscious about your actions and thoughs. And, now as you are doing this daily, for so long time, that you are on a loop, doing same shit everyday. 

To cease the day, you have to be conscious of every decision you take and every choice you make. In other words, you have to learn, how to be conscious every moment and how to break the current unconscious routine. And to do so, you have to self analyse throughout the day, after every hour that whether, whatever I am doing am I doing it consciously. Keep reminding yourself again and again. The way to break current unconscious routine is by simply replacing it by a conscious routine.

 But it's easier said than done. People who are unsuccessful in their work or in other areas are life are not essentially dumb,or lazy or less hard working, it's just that they don't have that passion enough to replace this unconscious routine with conscious one, throughout their life..and as a result, they fail and consider themselves a failure... .But, we need to realise that everyone on this earth have this problem, it's not exclusive for some special people. It's just that people who overcome this problem becomes successful in what they are persuing and those who are unable to win this problem, fails in their life also.

So you know the problem now...and you know the solution too... What you needed is just the practice to achieve the state of consciousness which is done by being aware of urself and surely by meditation. And for practicing all this you need passion which u have to get urself.

So, take charge of life and then you can achieve a lot...and won't feel anymore like the day is over and I haven't done anything productive.