TEMPORARY DISSATISFACTION = PERMANENT SATISFACTION !!

Is being unsatisfied good?

In our life we often fall short  of other's expectations as well as our own expectations, which leads to dissatisfaction.

                            Now, is being dissatisfied good in any way. Let us understand it with an example -

Suppose you are overweight, so, to lose weight you start dieting.You stopped eating your favourite dishes like rice, cakes, chocolates  etc. Now, all the time you would feel cravings to eat. You would feel hungry all the time. In other words, you would be dissatisfied. But if you continue this dissatisfied phase for a long time then, eventually you will start getting results, you would lose weight.

So what happened? Well, you had felt dissatisfied all the time but you embraced it...and you continued what you started. You would have felt like quitting because of the bad feeling you had because of the dissatisfaction. Yet you constantly moved along your path, with the dissatisfaction, and with no instant results during the journey.

But, if you had let the dissatisfaction overcome you, then you would have left the dieting and due to this you again become overweight and again guilt surrounds you this time, with a greater dissatisfaction. And this dissatisfaction is due to the commitment that you have broken and because of the fact that you couldn't able to achieve your expectations.

                         Similarly, when you try to quit bad habits like smoking, social media addiction, or  oversleeping, initially you would feel dissatisfied, and you might feel like why the hell you are doing this quitting and all, but if you can endure it you would be getting rid of your bad habits and have great satisfaction which is ever lasting...

So..... moral is, that you must continue what you have committed to yourself, even if you feel dissatisfied. You must be knowing that this dissatisfaction is temporary and you should consider it as a part of your journey. During the journey you must be reminding yourself that if you keep moving daily in your journey, then, dissatisfaction will try to stop you, but when you endure this dissatisfaction, you would reach your destination and the satisfaction you get on achieving your goal is irreplaceable.

This mean that daily dissatisfactions of life are necessary and indicate that you are fighting your demons.Not only that, if you are not quitting along the way and continue to take the dissatisfactions then you are winning your demons.

Thus, temporary dissatisfaction in long run will give permanent satisfaction.

" I HAVE FAILED VS I AM A FAILURE "

I AM A FAILURE.

Every person in his life, must have had this thought atleast once in their life. While, some might be thinking this in their head everyday.

But is it accurate to consider oneself a failure, if he failed in achieving what he aimed for? And, the answer is a big NO.

Let us understand it by an example - 

Let's rewind the clock, to the centuries when kings used to fight among themselves, for the sake of expanding their territory boundaries. The kings used to fight with big army and they used to fight for days.

              Every morning the Battle would begin, and at evening, they stop the fight, take rest the whole night and next morning they start battling again.

              Now, it must had been happening that one king might be Winning the battle on a given day and the rival king on other.

But, the final victory is undecided and completely unpredicted until the war gets over.

            The king who wins the war is the one who get the victory. It really doesn't matter, if for many days, he was losing the battles. But as he has won the war, victory comes to his feet.

So what's the moral of the story?

Actually, the same kind of battles are happening in our lives. Everyday, we wake up to fight a battle, not with others, but with ourselves. Yes it's always you vs you...you always compete with the person who you were yesterday, in the hope of getting better today.

Now, someday we may succeed and someday we may fail in achieving our goals.

But, losing some days only mean that you have failed to win the battle that days. It never mean, in any way, that you are a failure. The question then, that raise its head from the ground is when can someone be a failure???

Well, as victory can be decided only when the war is over. A person can be a failure only when his war i.e. his life is over. That means, until you are alive, you are still in a war, and battles are still needed to be fought. You can not determine someone won or lose the game is really over, right? 

So, how can you consider yourself a failures in your 20s, or 40s or even in your 60s, if you can still play (and win ) the goddamn game of life?

The result of any exam is never declared during the exam, but after the exam is over. Similarly, the result of life's war is only decided after life is over. But, you should not be worrying for that too, because that result also, couldn't affect you, as you wouldn't be alive to see if you are a winner or a failure after you are dead. So, remove this idea of being a failure, you can fail at something (you may lose some battles), but, until you die (until the war ends) you can't really decide for yourself to be a winner or a failure.

Moreover, we even haven't understood the failures correctly.

You see, you aim at something, you try for it, and then you may succeed or fail 

But, it's not really you, who fails. It's your efforts that fails.

When your efforts are not sufficient to achieve what you have aimed then it's your efforts that failed to provide you what you have expected. And surely, you and your efforts are two different things. And failing of efforts doesn't mean you have failed. 

So, stop having self doubt and self pity. Move on, and fight the battles.

And, not to spoil your ending, but, you are going to Win the war.

"EVEN AFTER PERFECT PLANNING, WHY WE STILL FAIL IN ACHIEVING WHAT WE PLANNED?"

You keep wondering how your day ends without achieving enough. You live unconsciously, for example, you use phone unconsciously for 2-3 hrs; you feel like sleeping in noon or evening and you sleep for 1-2 hrs; you get a message and u get along with it for hours.You know you are wasting time, still you do it all. 

This all is happening because you are not fully conscious of your actions, thoughts and emotions. You should know that you are master of them all and not the other way around. And as you are not conscious, all decisions are being made unconsciously and who made these decisions?. Well, your subconscious mind, who take decisions on basis of your past i.e. your habits and your recent routine. And even though you promise yourself as soon as you get out of your bed, that, today you will do better, but yet at the end of the day, you realise same routine was followed again and you feel demotivated. And, in hope, you then think about starting fresh from tomorrow, with 100 percent efficiency, but.....again, next day same routine is followed unconsciously.

The reason for this is, that as you wake up your mind is fresh and isolated, so you think consciously... but as day begins you caught up in the same routine, because throughout the day you forget about being conscious about your actions and thoughs. And, now as you are doing this daily, for so long time, that you are on a loop, doing same shit everyday. 

To cease the day, you have to be conscious of every decision you take and every choice you make. In other words, you have to learn, how to be conscious every moment and how to break the current unconscious routine. And to do so, you have to self analyse throughout the day, after every hour that whether, whatever I am doing am I doing it consciously. Keep reminding yourself again and again. The way to break current unconscious routine is by simply replacing it by a conscious routine.

 But it's easier said than done. People who are unsuccessful in their work or in other areas are life are not essentially dumb,or lazy or less hard working, it's just that they don't have that passion enough to replace this unconscious routine with conscious one, throughout their life..and as a result, they fail and consider themselves a failure... .But, we need to realise that everyone on this earth have this problem, it's not exclusive for some special people. It's just that people who overcome this problem becomes successful in what they are persuing and those who are unable to win this problem, fails in their life also.

So you know the problem now...and you know the solution too... What you needed is just the practice to achieve the state of consciousness which is done by being aware of urself and surely by meditation. And for practicing all this you need passion which u have to get urself.

So, take charge of life and then you can achieve a lot...and won't feel anymore like the day is over and I haven't done anything productive.

Success by Luck ?

The success which we get, by facing all opposite conditions, is the real success.

Success that we get easily is not success it's sheer luck. Furthermore, if you get success easily without failing and without sufficient hard work (which is a rare possibility)then following two things will happen for sure-

1. You will lose all of your confidence. Well, you might be thinking that success should boost up a person's confidence, but if you think a bit, you will understand that for such success, you wouldn't have gone through the complete journey of trying, failing and again trying.So you don't have experience of reaching success, and you would be afraid, because you would be having people around you, at the same level as yours but much knowledgeable than you. And then the downfall of your success begins.And your self respect and confidence will go poof!! Gone...

2. Another thing that is equally important as getting the success is maintaining it and taking it to a higher level. But, as you have came this far, without hard work, you would be again taking the chances on luck again. You might believe that luck again will help you to reach higher heights,but here is the thing with luck. It is called luck because it works rarely, and surely counting on it, again, will do miracles(Sarcasm!). You will not only fall but with such a rate, that you would be standing much below to where you were before you got your lucky success. 

All the great people are great because they got success when no one had expected it from them.They got success in the worst circumstances, that is, when there is no hope of success, at that time they proved themselves.How? Well the thing that is common in all great personalities of the world, is THEY NEVER QUIT, THEY JUST DON'T QUIT EVER. 

So what's the moral - for a great success greater failures and greater difficulties are necessary and these failures and difficulties are the part of journey to the success. So don't be afraid or freak out of difficulties, pain and failures as they are the opportunities in disguise to reach the success.

I know it's difficult but try to Enjoy your failures guys(obviously, must learn lesson from it too)...

TO KNOW "HOW" YOU NEED TO KNOW "WHY"

If you want to know how, then you have to find why.

If you admire or notice people around you, who wake up everyday so quickly sometimes withou rooster, you get amazed. Further, it's more sadness than amusement if you are not able to wake up so early.

I used to think that it's the work of will power that drives such people to wake up or they might have achieved this feat by practicing for years and making it a habit 

Well, it's both. Because it's the willpower that makes you do anything even when you don't like the work. And if you do it regularly over and over again it becomes a habit.

Now if you're wondering, why you don't have that willpower, then you have to understand that you were getting it wrong all the time. Actually, you have tremendous will power, everone has it, it's just that your will power of not waking up is overcoming the will power of waking up. The crux of what I mean is will power is not only  required for good things,it's also associated with bad things. Will power doesn't differentiate between postive and negative tasks. And therefore you have the problem of not waking up which by unintentional practicing, on regular basis is now converted into a bad habit of not waking up early.

This is the process of every bad or good habit formation. Depending on your intensity of willpower of either good or bad things,your good or bad habits are developed.

Now, we got the problem but what's the solution you must be thinking...

The solution is to intensify the willpower for things which you want to...like will power to wake up early. To know HOW to, you have to know WHY to, i.e. why to wake up early in the morning.

If you have a good reason, that won't let your ass on bed then, your willpower keeps on intensifying and eventually become a habit. Before sleeping think hard about why you need to wake up early, is it because you want to achieve your goal and you need to put in more hours or if you have to do something which is best if done early in the morning, and after knowing your why repeat everyday this reason before sleeping. And viola! You will have a great good habit.

It's not Just with waking early in morning,it's for every habit you want to build or eradicate. It's just the game of will power.

There could be many small reasons for "why not" but you just need to find that one reason for "why" you should be doing it.

So to find out "how" you need "why"